10 Dating Signs You're Being Needy

In my 10 years of coaching men and women on the perils of dating and relationships, the one journey women tell me they never want to go on again is meeting and hanging out with the "needy and clingy" man.

Nothing turns women off more than a guy who is really needy.

Nothing turns women off more than a guy who is really needy.

Now, I can practically hear men's voices protesting from everywhere, saying "But David, there are a lot of needy women too!" This article is not about them... it's about you.

Below are 10 signs that you are being needy. Remember you are trying to attract women, not turn them off. So if you suffer from any of these signs of neediness, you need to immediately stop those actions.

1. You just walked a woman to her door at the end of a date. Instead of kissing her, you ask her if she had a good time. Women are attracted to confident men. They don't want to have to tell you that they had a good time on a date... they want you to be secure enough in yourself to assume that they had a good time.

2. You called a woman last night and she has not yet called you back, so you either email her or call her again to ask her if she received your message. If you want to push her away, this is one of the best ways to get her to quickly run away from you.

3. You start texting a woman you just began dating five or six times a day. You are over-texting her. You don't need to check in every two hours. That's a sign of neediness and clingy behavior that turns women off.

4. You miss a call on your cell phone from a phone number that you don't recognize. You call the woman you're dating, and to whom you talked just two hours before, and ask, "Did you just call me?" This kind of behavior is going to push and scare her away.

5. You agree with everything the woman you're dating says. Women are not looking for a man who agrees with everything they say. Women want a man who challenges them and from whom they can learn. When a man agrees with everything a woman says, he is telling her that he'll do anything to have a relationship (which is another sign of being needy).

6. The woman you're dating is out for the evening with her friends. She promised to call you when she got home. It's getting late and you haven't heard from her. You just can't resist and you call her cell phone several times until she answers it. This is a sign of being needy and insecure. She's out with her friends... not out with another guy. Let her have some personal space and she'll respect you more.

7. You are too available. If you have plans with a friend, keep those plans even if the woman you're dating asks you to do something that night. Women don't want men who are like a 7-Eleven -- convenient and ready 24/7.

8. You try to please a woman all the time. I'm all about men doing nice things for women, but she has to earn it. Some men will let a woman walk all over them, and then continue to be a sponge and allow it over and over again. Stand up for yourself and she'll respect you more. Letting a woman walk all over you is a clear sign to her that you're needy.

9. Don't be afraid to challenge a woman. If you don't agree with something a woman says, don't just sit there and agree with her thinking it's what she wants. Women are looking for someone who is going to stimulate their mind... not bore them. Women are not turned on by men they can completely control.

10. Be the man! Have a plan and stick with it. Women like men who plan out evenings of fun.

Don't always ask a woman what she wants to do. Listen to what she likes when you're having conversations with her

Don't always ask a woman what she wants to do. Listen to what she likes when you're having conversations with her, then come up with a fun plan that you will already know she'll like. A needy man will do whatever a woman wants. A man of action will create plans for what they will do. Being a man of action will lead her to find you a lot more attractive in the long run.

Women love dating men who are confident and real. Women want to feel like you need them... but only after you already have your own life, your own ambitions, and your own goals.

The moment a man starts getting too clingy, a woman will run for the hills. This is exactly like how you will pull back from a woman who becomes clingy and needy.

10 Dating Signs You're Being Needy By David Wygant Special to Yahoo! Personals Updated: May 22, 2009

Sorry, stop scolding me.

Alright, alright! I hear you, I would admit that my last minute habit is bad. But, i did try to work it out yesterday, it's just that i had really facing hard time as i never done any of them before. Okay, shall not be too rely on you. Anyways, thanks ken for all the helpings out. I appreciate them. =) Not to forget about Jia Li for dropping me at TBR for the last minute printing! ^^

Nike's signature 'Just Do It"

Dumbass does not study!

The house is so empty as usual. It's been a month here since i moved to setapak, main reason was to save my time for travelling within pj and Utar. I found the new definition of freedom in the sense of boredom. I'm fine with that, but what made my whole afternoon restless was the stupiad fluid mechanics revision as tomorrow there will be a test for civil students. Argghh~~!! i never know that ''gamma equals to rho G'' can causes life so miserable. And what's wrong with the BG and SI units! I'm now like a dummy, totally have no idea how to convert them into each other. This is like so diammmit~! If the fluid lecture didn't happened to be so noob i don't have to struggle like hell now. I guess same goes to others. Life is like a straight line with assignment and test. Friends, where are you all?

Do you care about other feelings?

Blog is so common and i do agree it is a good place to unleash your ourselves, but people just simply abuse it. I think it is very immature to post a blog entry and comment about others. It's just like a trend, posting and bombast whatever they think it's cool and trying to get as much attentions from the readers. They think they're smart to apologize in advanced! "Im sorry about the offensive post, but it is just what i felt" Im very sure that you are familiar with such statement right. I annoyed by those who think themselves are excellent in using words regardless what they posted might hurt or degrade others. Like my sister, i was shocked to found that my picture had appeared in her post at times, without any permission! I'm not trying to bring up the matter since it had passed. But, how do u feel when your privacy has been published without even being informed. And she even take my camera to take pictures, to reveal all my bad habits. Everyone does have bad habits and im sure each of us would do our best to cover up. It doesn't mean that you need to let everyone know about it even you're dissatisfy with someone. Do i need to mention to others that you simply display your used sanitary pad at the toilet bowl, or do i need to tell my friend that you actually wore back your unwashed bra? So disappointed with a educated U student. =( so sad. You might not feel how I feel because you just simply dun understand.

Please, it can be so fragile.

I felt so weak at times when u raise your voice to me. Like a fragile glass, my heart shattered into pieces just by your hurting words. Staring into those broken pieces, i see myself believing you, losing control. Why didn't i expected that some of them are pain in the first place. Or maybe i did, just letting myself go insane and ignore the possibilities. I don't mean to greed for more, everything seems fine but somehow i feel something is still lacking. I'm really tired, and sad. Why do u get my mood swings so easily. I really hate this kind of feeling, feels like myself making fuss over little matters. I am not. Feelings are so real. Especially pain.

Think before you scold.

Tonight, i really lost of words. Feel like something burn in the back of my throat and i could not describe the feeling. I have been watching real life lately, the unfair ones. For those who could not cope, they end up in their grieves. And i realise if only they could stop asking why then things would go better. Some of them rant pointlessly, curse cruelly by hoping the one you hate would deserve something really bad just to unleash how he/she is feeling. You see, when one starts to rant, he/she will dig and list all the bad things without even think anything of the good side. If your anger could send someone to hell, will you be happy if you live alone in this universe? Have you ever think that he/she appear in your life because it meant something. Isn't all these are immature thinking. Why can't we easily accept the fact at times. Why we have to deny and over care about matter. Who can give me an exact answer? No one. Because i have to stop asking why and accept it. It is always up to you to forget, forgive, let out or keep it. It's a huge circle in life, nobody could escape.

ps: You may scold fuck you to express your anger, disappointment or frustration, at the same time it shows your personality clearer as well.